Maybe she has looser standards for sexual activity than Christian women. I mean, if you’re getting no results in your search, it seems sensible to drop the one stipulation that’s narrowing your potential pool, right?This rationalization is exacerbated by lots of easy excuses that remind me of the secular dating book care for them. And one by one, the authors shoot down the letters, explaining, “Nope, he’s just not that into you.” When it comes to dating non-Christians, we also often tell ourselves, “But this is !Unfortunately, what you are struggling with is not a unique circumstance.Many of us find something or somebody we desire, and although we know it is not godly or righteous, we dabble with or justify it only to fall victim to it sooner or later. Group activities are important in helping singles meet and build friendships, but moving beyond hanging out toward courtship and marriage is also essential. Many Latter-day Saint singles are trying to reduce the time they spend hanging out.She literally blew me away the first time I saw her, but when I got to talk to her and tell her my intentions she told me she was already in a relationship. When she told me about her relationship, I was stubborn at first, acting contrary to my Maker and though I did not continue to strongly pursue her we remained close friends.The problem is we always got ourselves into compromising situations and though we didn't have sex, we have kissed and caressed.
"She described herself as the worst wall flower ever, with drab clothes, she would look at the ground, never got a second date — ever.
Even though she insists that she loves her boyfriend and has no feelings for me, she's usually the main architect of these situations.
I have tried to explain to her that not only does this compromise our Christianity but these situations only make my feelings grow deeper, and yet I would hope to have a strictly platonic relationship with her as I search for that lady that God has prepared for me.
For my friend Amber, for instance, it was watching her best friend and younger sister get married (both to wonderful Christian husbands) and start families.
She doubted God’s plan for her and began dating more aggressively to hurry up her own trip to the altar.