The other day, a friend made a nasty comment about herpes in front of me and then quickly apologized. I told him that I'd seen the Abreva in his medicine cabinet once after I asked to steal some Q-tips, but he hastily got defensive and rambled about how he'd "really gotten only one cold sore in his entire life." What he meant was, "Cold sores don't count as herpes."The last time I had heard that stupid, godforsaken sentence was just after I had been diagnosed with herpes simplex virus 1 — the same strain that causes cold sores on your mouth — on my genitals.
"I wasn't sure if you'd be offended," he said, kindly thinking of my dirty, herpetic soul."It's no big deal," I said, "I mean, don't you have it too? A guy I was dating at the time went down on me, as you do, with no disclosure of previous cold sores he'd had. This dopey-ass, Soundcloud-having, Vimeo-Plus-subscribing dude had a Valtrex prescription for his frequent cold sores — one he hadn't been using — but didn't think that going down on me could transmit anything.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!
Some forums can only be seen by registered members.
I knew enough about sexually transmitted diseases to know that I had herpes, but I didn't know exactly what to do.
As I sat in the college health center waiting to see a doctor, I watched my very short-lived social life drift by.
And yes i know that cold sores are usually caused by HSV1.
And if you do have symptoms, they are easily controlled with the use of drugs.Would you stop dating someone because of cold sores? I've been with him for almost 20 years (off and on) and have not contracted HSV-1 from him during all this time (verified with a blood test a few years back when I was pregnant). The person with the cold sores needs to be really in tune with their body.I know that they are very contagious, herpes, and can even be transmitted to the genitals This guy seems nice so far but I'm not sure if this is a risk I am willing to take. They can tell when they are going to get a cold sore (he describes it as a tingling or burning in his lip) and as soon as that happens the virus can be transmitted (it's called the prodromal period and virus shedding occurs during this time).If ok, want to jump on my soapbox for a second, if anyone reading this has herpes, do the right thing, let people know. As far as genital herpes goes, we’re talking 20% of the population.One of the most difficult things I had to do was call former boyfriends I may have exposed (think it was dormant in my system for quite sometime, I honestly did not know). I think all the readers should take a second to put themselves in your shoes for a moment. That’s 50 MILLION people, a majority of whom don’t even know they’re infected.