In fact a number of women have said to me that they’re afraid of wasting time, while at the same time feeling that time is running out, so they’re trying to effectively compact, for example, what would be a years worth of dating for another person, into a couple of months. It may feel like you’re auditioning them for what you feel is the big job of being ‘The One’ but you and they are people with feelings, libidos, imaginations, and love habits that may be counterproductive to you actually getting the relationship you want – adding several people to the mix just makes it messy.But equally, keeping your options open is about being non-commital and this is the mainstay of being emotionally unavailable and creating limited experiences that keep you ‘safe’ in a self-fulfilling prophecy bubble. Feeling like you have choices may convince you that you have more choices than you have and trap you indecision!It is only by really going out there and looking for someone who excites you that you will find that amazing relationship. They are people who stimulate your mind and your soul.It's all about understanding the law of attraction. Until you go out and work on your inside, there's no way you're going to attract the person you want.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
I want to talk about multiplicity in your dating life. They think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar.
While this may be true of some women who are dating multiple people, I actually believe that there are many good (and, in fact, great) reasons to date several different people when you're single.
When I was looking for love, I often dated up to three guys simultaneously.
I wasn't trying to hit some number in the Guinness Book of World Records.