Sure, she won the genetic lottery, but she’s still only human. She farts, shaves and laughs at silly jokes just like the rest of us.We’re all in the same league when you look at it like that. Do you believe she (or he) is much more attractive than you are?If so, you may want to give your pursuit a second thought: A variety of research suggests that couples who do not match one another in their approximate levels of physical attractiveness tend to have less successful romantic relationships."The first step is always identifying who you believe you are and aren’t," Fleming says.In other words, you have to know what you want and need both in life and a relationship before you're capable of being with any woman. "Be curious about feelings of longing, frustration, and desire." If you're only infatuated with her because she's a swimsuit model or you've got an ex you'd really like to make jealous, well, that's going to cause some problems.
How do you even know what league she’s in without meeting her?The majority of men won’t even introduce themselves in these situations.Even in more acceptable environments, most who do say hi to her are half-expecting rejection. They say stupid things and give up at the first sign of awkwardness.What's more, if you're unhappy with who you are, that insecurity with your identity can be the root of your dating insecurities—and why you don't feel worthy of an incredible girl. Sure, you can be intimidated by her education, job, social standing, attractiveness, maybe even her height. Take her off the pedestal and evaluate whether or not you can really see a relationship with her.Just go up and say hello to her—on the subway, street, wherever.