The intelligence test This test works best on a friend of a friend; someone you know enough to strike up a casual conversation with but would like to know better.
The first step is to ask her if she wants to take a test to measure how intelligent she is.
The most successful openers, it turns out, are positive, thoughtful, creative and slightly personalized.
After all, how hard is it to fire a simple “hello there! Consider, however, just how much email the average person receives in a day.
You’ve read her profile, Googled that author she mentioned four times, and managed to tactfully point out your similarities without sounding desperate. According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, users on his site exchange about 4 million messages – a day. In his book, ‘Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking’, Rudder weighs in on whether a canned message actually works, or if women see through that BS in an instant.
You may get a response, you may not – and there's a lot of reasons for a lack of responses. Maybe she’s seeing where things go with a guy who got there first. That's roughly 166,666 messages being sent every hour – one of which was yours. Let’s push the odds of meeting someone back in your favor. In a nutshell, he said the copy/paste strategy is 25% less effective in terms of response rate, when you compare the effort you put in to the results you get back.
But first, there’s one important question to consider – do you invest 15-20 minutes writing one custom message, painstakingly crafted to include specific details mined from her profile?
Or do you go the “mass appeal” route, and fire off the same message to 15-20 women in that same amount of time? You spend 20 minutes composing The Perfect Message. The point is, that's 20 minutes of your life you'll never get back.