If you’re single and over the age of 22, the opportunities in which to meet singletons like yourself dry up faster than water in the Sahara. You hear lots of “success” stories but lots of horror stories, too.Once you’re out of high school or college, the dating pool is pretty much limited to coworkers, friends of friends and random dudes you’d meet in a bar, bookstore or market. I was incredibly nervous about going on first dates, most of which felt like blind ones — though I’d seen photos of the guys I was seeing, of course, and had exchanged emails with them several times.Our premise was that women who played hard to get got their man, while the women who showed too much interest didn't.The book was translated into 27 languages and helped a generation of women find their Mr Right. Now texting, Facebook, Twitter, Skype and online matchmaking sites have revolutionised the dating landscape.Here are some of my guesses: On texting: Obviously, never text him first, even if you’re married with three kids. Don’t write on his wall, don’t send him Facebook messages, don’t let him see any of your photos—keep him on a limited profile view.Don’t interact with any mutual friends you may have. You can pretend you’re receptive to a booty call, but when suitor arrives at your apartment, don’t answer the door.
When we wrote dating bible The Rules in 1995, it became a bestseller.But in each case, I was happy to have gone and put myself out there — especially when I met Spencer, the fourth of the online dates, and now? I was encouraged to join by a good friend and fellow blogger — I’ll protect her identity in case she doesn’t want me “outing” her, but her initials are JL! I was tempted to go out with him just for the good stories would inevitably produce.) After exhausting my friends, family and blog readers (hi, you guys! Enter was snatched up before I hunkered down with it for the night.— and never regretted joining, though it could definitely be stressful. Some were heavy, some thin; some young, some older. ) for tips and encouragement, I turned to the only other place I could think of for help: a book. I read the whole book in a matter of hours, each of the chapters swimming through my head.So NEVER ask men out by text, Facebook or on instant messenger.The premise of The Rules is that, as unfeminist as it sounds, a woman should do absolutely nothing to start a relationship.