I am a strong advocate of single mother’s dating single dad’s. You can’t bring two completely different families together and expect perfect harmony without the kids already knowing each other well. Stepbrothers and stepsisters almost always get along well, as long as they have something in common. As you probably know, television isn’t always reality.
They don’t have to worry about putting their kids to bet and getting them ready for school the next morning. Or do you want someone that hasn’t so much as changed a diaper helping you raise them? But a boyfriend that has kids of his own may be able to do you a solid and watch your kids while you go out with the girls on a Friday night.
It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.
You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.
We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want.
They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don’t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like.