Including at Ruby Finch's birthday party, on Friday night, where I was too chicken to flirt with some hot uber-politico nerd-dude. And Hot Band Guy writing back to defend # # #After my exceptionally fun evening of speed-dating with the nerds, I decided to get in touch with the man who organized and MC-ed the whole event, on Matt Wasowski, AKA "The Boss of Nerd Nite" (as well as the author of the very nerdy book, MAURA: So, Matt: Nerd-flirting! MATT: There's really only one thing you need to know: Get a nerd drunk and have your way with him. For instance, take the world's sexiest rock-star drummer, like a Tommy Lee. I can certainly be somewhat nerdy about books and movies and indie rock--I guess. Check out Friday's post for comments from Arlo Pumpernickel, defending Hot Band Guy! The title isn't exclusively reserved for scientists and Trekkies.If he's able to spend 45 minutes explaining the different ways to tune a snare drum, then he's a nerd, too, on top of being a rock-star. We all have oodles of insecurities about our strange quirks, and we're all dying to find that special someone who will find those quirks interesting. In fact, I was once dating a nerd, and he asked me whether I was cool or nerdy in high school.NERDS ARE JUST LIKE THE REST OF US (OR WE'RE ALL LIKE THEM)MATT: Truth be told, I think we're all nerds--early every single one of us. The fact that he was having a hard time figuring it out was, in its own weird way, a compliment.I made him guess--and finally, he went with "nerd." And again, strangely, I was flattered.HOW TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE ON A NERDMAURA: I've had dudes tell me: "Guys love it when women make the first move." But in my own experience, things never seem to work out that well when I take the initiative. MATT: I've never met any male who didn't like being sought out by a lass. That special feeling of adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin coursing through your body like a biologic Zerg rush. I myself am not entirely unfamiliar with the concept of relationships.In fact, after finding a human I liked, I followed a one Ms.
It’s pretty easy to draw a straight line directly from media portrayals to my issues in this area.
I recently started going to therapy for some pretty serious self esteem issues that had led to me isolating myself for a long time.
Up until this year I hadn’t been to a non-family social event – including just one-on-one hangs – in over five years (and even before that it was pretty rare).
A fat girl talking about sex is almost always a punch line, a character for everyone else to make “ew, gross” faces about.
Despite intellectually knowing better, I’ve internalized this message.